When A Friend Betrays You

Jim Uncategorized 4 Comments

Yesterday a friend betrayed me. Publicly. 

It hurt. I went from disbelief, to shock, to anger. This is a person I’ve given great support to. I couldn’t understand why they would do this to me.

Yes there have been numerous little, passive aggressive behaviors from this person over the years, things I always explained away and let slide by. But this time? Not so easy to make excuses for what they did.

What Now? 

My choices are simple.

  • Get bitter. Can’t do that. That’s like ingesting a drop of poison every day and expecting it to hurt my betrayer. 
  • Strike back. Nope. Evil and hate have never conquered evil and hate.
  • Act from a place of love. Yes. It’s the only path if I want life.

And what is love? God is love. And the nature of Love is spelled out in I Corinthians 13. Love is not offended. (I was offended.) Love is not provoked. (I was provoked.) Love keeps no record of wrong. (Does that mean I have to let go of my memory of what this person did and has done to me? Yep.)

This doesn’t mean I keep stepping into the lion’s cage after its claws ripped down my back. Wisdom tells me to stay out of the cage. But if I am walking in the love of Abba, I let go of what was done to me, I hold no record, and I think of this person with  kindness, with patience; hoping for them, and believing all things for them. I love them.

And this is only possible by grasping that this is how my Father loves me. 




Comments 4

  1. Donna Isenor

    Hey Jim, have loved your trilogy, rooms, the chair, Book of Days, they got me through a very tough season 2 years ago on a sabbatical from Christian ministry work. I was thrilled to see you did the audio for The Forgotten Way. Haven’t heard it yet, but am on my 4th read through the meditations. This blog shows the rubber meeting the road! Was wondering how you came to know Ted and got involved. Your work is definitely blessed and anointed by Poppa! Love you brother!

  2. Reggie Greenleaf

    Jim I am currently reading your book Soul’s Gate, wow, it not only has impacted me but has reopened my eyes to the spiritual possibilities that God has intended for us. God bless you!

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